The Enneagram – What type are you?
Last night I came back from my last and favourite (not cause and effect) death and dying class.
This class has not lessened my anxiety over death per se, but it has certainly made me aware of the death experience.
Our last lecture dealt with death and the individual.
According to the Enneagram, all people can fall under 1 of 9 personality types.
Based on these personality types, your view of death can be predicted.
I was shocked to discover how accurately the enneagram determined my personality and view on death.
So here is what you do:
A. Get a pencil and a piece of paper
B. Rate the following statements on a scale of 1 to 7. 7 being most applicable to you, and 1 being the least applicable to you. Keep the order of the statements the same on your sheet as it is indicated below! I.e. There are a total of 27 statements, do not number them 1-27, you should have three sets of 9 statements, each set numbered 1-9.
I feel motivated by the need to…
1. Live life the right way, improve myself and others, and avoid anger
2. Be loved and appreciated, and to express my positive feelings toward others.
3. Be productive, to achieve success, and to avoid failure.
4. Understand my feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life and to avoid being ordinary.
5. Know everything and understand the universe, to be self-sufficient and left alone, and to avoid not having the answer or looking foolish.
6. Feel secure and taken care of, or to confront my fears.
7. Be happy and plan fun things, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
8. Be self-reliant and strong, to make an impact on the world, and to avoid being weak.
9. Keep the peace, merge with others, and avoid conflict.
I think that I…
1. See anger as a character flaw and try to repress it.
2. Am interested in people, play the role of nurturer, and try to present a loving image.
3. Try to be seen in a good light, according to socially agreed upon terms.
4. Have a strong need to express myself and be seen as original.
5. Rely on my own resources and find safety in knowledge and/or withdrawing.
6. Try to control my fear by being alert and either seeking approval from, or rebelling against, authority figures.
7. Am active and optimistic, and I avoid unpleasant emotions, including fear.
8. Am powerful and am not afraid to express my anger.
9. Am accommodating and often out of touch with my anger.
My worldview can be characterized as…
1. The world is an imperfect place. I work toward improvement
2. People depend on my help. I am needed.
3. The world values a champion. Avoid failures at all costs.
4. Something is missing. Others have it. I have been abandoned.
5. The world is invasive. I need privacy to think and to refuel my energies.
6. The world is a threatening place. Question authority.
7. The world is full of opportunity and options. I look foward to the future.
8. The world is an unjust place. I defend the innocent.
9. My efforts won’t matter. Don’t make waves. Keep the peace.
A. Add up all your scores for all your “1.” statements, and all your “2.” statements, and so on. You should end up with 9 totals.
B. Look at your top three scores, read over the corresponding sets of statements (i.e. If your highest score was for 5. statements then read over the 5. statements) and decide which set is “closest” or most reflective of yourself.
C. Write down the set you are. This is your type number.
How do you view death?
Type 1: The Perfectionist
Basic Desire: To be right
Basic Fear: To be condemned
Never? Let their spouse wear a sweatsuit to a highschool reunion.
Conceptualize death as a mistake.
– Always on top of things
– Lack of consideration for others
Type 2: The Helper
Basic Desire: To be loved
Basic Fear: To be unloved.
Never? Show up at a potluck empty handed.
Conceptualize death as a need.
– like being helpful, good at being helpful
– neglect themselves
– always seek acknowledgment of their helpfulness, guilt-trippers
Type 3: The Performer/Achiever
Basic Desire: To succeed
Basic Fear: To fail
Never? Feel good about any place but first.
Conceptualize death as a failure.
– hard workers
– have a hard time dealing with failure
– prioritize work above all else
Type 4: The Romantic
Basic Desire: To understand the self
Basic Fear: Being defective
Never? Spend 1 minute searching for a date outfit.
Conceptualize death as abandonment.
– specialize in emotionality
– at risk of being overwhelmed by negativity
– self-destructive, sense of hopelessness
Type 5: The Thinker/Observer
Basic Desire: To understand the world
Basic Fear: Being overwhelmed by the world
Never? Invite over a relative they’ve never met.
Conceptualize death as a mystery.
– emotionally stable
– voice of reason
– find it difficult to deal with emotions, and often disconnect themselves from their own emotions
– aloof and unempathetic
Type 6: The Questioner/Loyalist (Split)
Split: They are either the Piglets of the world (Oh my, oh my!) or the “Silence, I will kill you” type
Basic Desire: To be secure.
Basic Fear: Being abandoned.
Never? Remain optimistically calm about a spouse who is 3 hours late from sky-diving.
Conceptualize death as betrayal.
– cautious and fiercely loyal
– anxiety over safety of themselves and others
Type 7: The Enthusiast/Adventurer
(A surprising number of 7s in our Death and Dying class)
Basic Desire: To be happy
Basic Fear: To be deprived
Never? Choose cleaning the garage over bungee-jumping. (Only the 1s would)
Conceptualize death as no fun.
– optimistic, no regrets
– their cheer is contagious for those around them
– impatient with others’ suffering and grief
Always strikes to me funny that 7s are the only people with the basic desire of being happy while all other types are preoccupied with other things.
Type 8: The Leader/Asserter
Basic Desire: Being self-reliant
Basic Fear: Submission
Never? Wait in line patiently while the cashier chats to a customer.
(These are the Arnold Schwarzeneggers of the world, the kind that would say to satan: “Compared to me, you are choir boy.”)
Conceptualize death as an opponent.
– take charge when others are unable to
– Do not deal with emotions because emotions are a sign of weakness
– Likely to turn grief/sadness into anger
Type 9: The Peacekeeper
Basic Desire: To keep union and peace.
Basic Fear: Separation
Never? Refuse a soak in the bath tub. Zen.
Conceptualize death as disharmony.
– resolve conflicts, mediators in arguments
– perceived to be good listeners
– strong emotions and a desire for peace are conflicting
– often try to disconnect themselves from emotions
– negative feelings will often show up in the form of physical symptoms.
WOOT. Finally done. Took me two hours. Bloody hell.
So, what type are you?
Make sure you leave it in the comments below!